On the Jersey Shore finale last week, Mike "The Situation" surprisingly shirked such restriction on male emotionality. In this link, at 27:00, Mike belies his meathead exterior and expresses genuine hurt concerning purported badmouthing from his best friend Paulie.
That would be upsetting for me to even think that. I'm extremely upset if it was him. [He walks around visibly agitated.]Pauly also refers to his relationship with Mike as a "friendship", a welcome deviation from pseudo-masculine neologisms like "buddy", "boy", "dawg", and "Bromance". All these terms are ways of exclaiming the "no homo" refrain popular amongst rappers. Men can't even define their own friendships without resorting to techniques for hiding their affection. Some commenters will dismiss this as minuscule, but I'm very encouraged to see this.
And how has such a despondent situation arisen? How has the prevailing social landscape shamed men from their own emotions and demanded they express nothing but carnal tendencies? Men no longer have a social qualifier via their larger societal status. Prior to the women's lib movement, each man had a comfortable position in the social hierarchy with a corresponding confirmation of his status as a man. But "equality" politics has created a generation of supplicating beta males eager to assume the position. In doing so, these men have ruined it for the rest of us; now, regular men must feign hyper-masculinity to distinguish themselves from the beta masses. He must engage in absurd displays of maleness in order to project his worthiness as a provider. He must shirk all stereotypically feminine traits because any hint of beta-tude will befall him in the sexual marketplace.
It's ironic that a man who epitomizes the meathead would so publicly subvert the stereotype. But good for him. Of course, this doesn't mean men should start wearing hipster jeans and crying during a Julia Roberts movie. Have some balls guys, please.
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The flaw in your theory is that Europe is quite different and they had women's lib.
Steve Sailer kind of covered this years ago when he discussed why ballet is perfectly acceptable for boys in Europe, but in America it is not.
It has much to do with being an unintended consequence of America being a classless society. Read the following two links and I think one can fairly extrapolate that the gay ghettoization and consequent fear of being seen as gay (a wholly legitimate fear, btw) leads us all to be ultra stoic and cold in regards to our friendships.
I was friends with a European exchange student in high school for whom holding hands with fellow girlfriends was as natural as breathing. She found it utterly bizarre that same-sex friends were so distant with each other with absolutely no touching except for a hug. Being somewhat bohemian and a girly, emotional person, I did not mind and welcomed this custom. Rumors spread around the school and beyond that we were "girlfriends". A pervert in his early 30s even wrote me a letter asking if it would be so bad to let her touch me more (I don't think he ever even laid eyes on her, just hearing about two teen-aged girls holding hands at the local high school was enough). I kid you not!
http://www.isteve.com/Decline_of_the_Metrosexual.htm
http://isteve.blogspot.com/2006/02/are-russian-male-figure-skaters-as-gay.html
He's Italian. Of course he's going to be emotional.
I don't know what is worse, men who have trouble with emotions or Feminist Reasoning
If a man spells pussy "p*ssy" then he is an effeminate pussy! =)
I think the reason for the hypermasculinity displays is different. That's a copy of black culture, which has been pre-defined as cool. And in black culture, chicks are available on command. So it's easy to see why white kids would try to transfer the same dynamic to their world. And the real men of prior decades, i.e. Robert Mitchum types, were not allowed to show sadness either. That was the reason for all the drinking.
"In doing so, these men have ruined it for the rest of us; now, regular men must feign hyper-masculinity to distinguish themselves from the beta masses."
This is perhaps your worst yet. If the average man had gotten less masculine, then someone who wants to "distinguish" himself would feel LESS of a need for a "hyper-masculine" performance.
The idea that the pressure to act "manly" comes from feminism is beyond ludicrous. If drivel like that seems true to you, then you need to question where your mind is at.
"But "equality" politics has created a generation of supplicating beta males eager to assume the position."
Regarding this link -- Attacking people on the internet is just a safe way of venting aggression. MRA guys are great targets. They're morally inferior, they're stupid, and they're at a safe physical distance. It has little to do with attracting women.
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